Base Scripture: 2 Samuel 11
David should have been out leading his army into battle or at least going over strategy with his generals in a tent in the field somewhere. But he stayed home and got bored one night. The results impacted generations. Boredom can lead to some precarious decision making- we’ve all been there. If I had a dollar for how many times I got bored at night and did something stupid I’d have a couple hundred dollars. Anyway. Back to our friend David.
It was a spring evening. David was hanging out on the palace roof. There, he saw a woman bathing. Now the first look is free- but once he realized what he was seeing, he should have turned away. You can’t take responsibility for how someone dresses or their shape or a purposeful act to gain your attention. You can only be responsible for your actions once you’ve identified the situation. The reality is: the longer you look, the more likely you are to engage in some sort of negative behavior.
So, David saw a woman bathing and looked away. End of story.
Nope. It did not happen that way.
He saw a naked woman. A beautiful woman. He looked. Stared. Lusted. And asked a servant about her. His servant had all the details. The woman’s name? Bathsheba. Her status? Uriah’s wife. The husband was who? A soldier in his army, away at war fighting on his behalf.
David sent for her.
Compartmentalization started at that moment on the roof when David continued to gaze upon the woman. Thoughts swirled his mind: “I just want this for myself.” “I just want to keep this little secret.”
“I just want” is the prefix of many sentences that have led to ruin:
-I just want to go out and have a good time.
-I just want one night to myself.
-I just want to have one more drink.
-I just want to have one last dance.
-I just want to be left alone.
-I just want a kiss.
-I just want to see my kids.
-I just want to know why you won’t talk to me anymore.
-I just want to see who she’s with right now.
-I just want to drive by his house.
-I just want someone to feel what I feel.
-I just want the pain to stop.
-I just want the voices to stop.
-I just don’t want to be alone tonight.
If I asked a someone familiar with the bible to complete the following phrase: David and ____. There are two top answers; Its either going to be “David and Goliath” or “David and Bathsheba”. Other answers could be “David and Jonathan” or “David and Saul”, though not as popular. And while the scriptures clearly reference David spent a lot of alone time with God, in all of David’s most notable moments, he was not alone.
David was in love with God as evidenced in the many love songs and poems to God. David trusted God with his life. David sought God in everything … except for Bathsheba. Perhaps if David asked God about her, instead of his servant, God may have responded: “that’s Bathsheba, a very wise woman. Her husband will die in battle and one day you will marry her and conceive a great son who will carry on my kingdom. Just be patient and respectful; your time together will come”.
What if David would have sought God first? Perhaps he would not have taken another man’s wife. What if he sought God later? Perhaps he would not have orchestrated Uriah’s ultimate death. David’s “I just want … her” distracted him from his relationship with God, from his reliance on God. And that is when sin took over and executed its own plan. So rather than ask God for help, he tried to fix the situation himself. The fix? Murder. His actions became more and more desperate and extreme.
Sin takes you further than you want to go.
5 The woman conceived and sent word to David, saying, “I am pregnant.”
David just wanted sex, but he got a baby on top of it.
Sin costs you more than you want to pay.
14 In the morning David wrote a letter to Joab and sent it with Uriah. 15 In it he wrote, “Put Uriah out in front where the fighting is fiercest. Then withdraw from him so he will be struck down and die.”
David just wanted to commit adultery, but he ended up murdering a man
Sin makes you stay longer than you want to stay.
10 ‘Now, therefore, the sword will never depart from your house, because you despised me and took the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your own.’
David just wanted one night of pleasure, but it cost his family generations of strife.
When a dog poops inside the house the dog may have the desire to clean it up, but he doesn’t have the tools. He can move it around with his nose or maybe grab a rug and cover it, but the smell will sooner or later betray the dog and his mess will be revealed. Just like a dog needs a Master, we need God. God does not leave us when we make mistakes. He’s right there, watching. We whisper, “I just want…” and act. We may in our own minds think we are leaving God outside the drug house, whorehouse, “that” website or chat site, but God is still with us. He is grieved, but He stays. He wants us to make better decisions. We are not equipped to clean up our own messes. We can reach to Him for help at any time in the process.